Qualities In A Spouse
Qualities in a spouse can determine a healthy marriage. Choosing qualities in a spouse is fundamental foundation of a partnership. Everyone likes to have a perfect, happy and permanent marriage and married life. To a large extent
it may depend on the qualities in the existing or potential spouse, qualities in husband as well as
qualities in wife. With good qualities in the marriage partners, the marriage can work wonderfully.
Most people have read articles that tell them to communicate with their spouses, never to go to bed
angry, etc. But being a stellar spouse takes a lot more than controlling anger and talking through
issues. There are many other more important traits needed to be a stellar spouse.
I am often asked, “What should a single person look for in a potential spouse?” Singles
want to know and parents want to know so they can pass the information on to the
children. A man and woman have to get married at some point of time. Every married man
wishes to have a good bride but the questions that come in our mind are: ‘what does a man wants
in his wife? ‘what qualities does a perfect wife have?
Takes pride in their appearance
Men would love to see their wives look well. When he comes home his wife should look good, so
that after a very tiring day he will feel good after seeing her. Men always want his friends to be
jealous of him as he has a beautiful and intelligent wife for lifetime. She should be presentable in
front of his friends. All he wants is to get appreciation for his wife. A spouse of yours should be
one you take pride in.
Can handle pressure
Your spouse should be able to handle whatsoever pressure that comes all the way. The person you
marry shouldn’t give you ultimatums like, I won’t date you until you get a promotion, or “If you go
out with your friends, I’ll break up with you. There shouldn’t be rules to your relationship that
prohibit you from doing certain things or hold you back from being who you are. He can’t prevent
you from wearing your crop top to the bar.
Sense of Humor
The ideal spouse has a sense of humor. A sense of humor can be a lifesaver in a relationship. The
ability to laugh at one’s self and at life’s foibles allows a person to maintain a proper perspective
when dealing with sensitive issues that arise within the relationship. Couples who are playful and
teasing often defuse potentially volatile situations with their humor. A good sense of humor
definitely eases the tense moments in a relationship. Being able to laugh at ourselves makes life
much easier. Plus, it is one of life’s greatest joys to be able to laugh with someone close to us.
Good with money
An ideal partner should be good with money. Whoever takes care of the money in your house,
make sure that your wife is cared for and not deprived. Buy her treats and presents. Be liberal with
your household budget and trust that she will be careful with the hard earned money. It’s amazing
what a woman can do with a home when she is allowed free reign with decorating and arranging.
Do you have something you believe in? Do you hold to your convictions no matter what? If so,
these are admirable traits in a spouse. This isn’t about being obstinate or obtuse, standing up for
what’s right and convincing others to do the same. There is a whole industry built around learning
how to lead, but let me just say this: if more men would take the time to help those who need a
little direction, the world would be a better place.
High ethics and morale
A young man’s character is displayed in his choices around life around the use of money
and relationships. But a woman’s character is displayed in how she handles the power of
her femininity and sexuality. In other words how modest is she? That’s becoming a weird
word in our culture, but I would challenge young men to keep their eyes out for young
women whose character is displayed in not only on the inside, but the outside as well.
An ideal spouse must have high ideal and morale which helps to hold up the
Great mentally stability
Grown up isn’t merely a matter of not acting like a kid anymore. These qualities are nice, but to
truly grow up means making an active effort to recognize and resolve negative influences from our
past. An ideal partner is thus willing to reflect on his or her history and is interested in
understanding how old events inform current behaviors. When people mature emotionally, they are
less likely to re-enact or project past experiences onto their current relationships. They develop a
strong sense of independence and autonomy, having differentiated from destructive influences from
early in life. As they evolve within themselves, they are less likely to look for someone to
compensate for shortcomings and weaknesses or to complete their incompleteness. Instead, they’re
looking for someone to share life with as equals and to appreciate independently of themselves.
Having broken ties to old identities and patterns, this person is much more available to a romantic
partner and the new family that they create together. Naturally, becoming emotionally mature
ourselves helps with this process and dramatically improves our chances of achieving a solid and
How they treat people and their parents with Honesty & Integrity
God tells us to honor our parents that our lives may be long and it may be well with us.
Wouldn’t you want to select a man whose life has a sense of well-being in God’s favor? I
have heard it said that if you want to see how a young man will treat you, see how he
treats his mother. How does your spouse honor both their parent? Do they speak well of
them or angry with them or refuse to speak about them at all? What’s going on between a
young man and his parents is very important. A spouse should treat their parent
The ideal partner realizes the importance of honesty in a close relationship. Honesty builds trust
between people. Dishonesty confuses the other person, betraying their vulnerability and shattering
their sense of reality. Nothing has a more destructive impact on a close relationship between two
people than dishonesty and deception. Even in painful situations such as infidelity, the blatant
deception involved is often equally, if not more, hurtful than the unfaithful act itself. The ideal
partner strives to live a life of integrity so that there are no discrepancies between words and
actions. This goes for all levels of communication, both verbal and nonverbal.
Good work ethics
However you have worked out your roles within the household, whether one works and one stays
home with the kids, or both work, you are a team working towards a common goal. Both spouse
should have good work ethics. We all have goals, dreams, and aspirations. Wouldn’t it be
miserable to be with someone who didn’t support them? The frustrations and insecurities that
derive from a spouse not being supportive can bring someone to the point of depression. It would
be hard to be with someone who doesn’t support what you are passionate about, and I would
encourage marrying someone who is. Be open and honest about what you feel.
Making you a priority
There is nothing more frustrating than being with someone who has no drive, no matter the
circumstance. When it comes to looking for a spouse, seeking after someone who is driven is
something you don’t want to look past. You’ll appreciate someone who has a drive to get better,
take criticism, work harder, and take advice. This will be greatly beneficial in your relationship,
and it will save you from having to pry this person off the couch in the future.
I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who only thought of themselves, and frankly
that’s the opposite of what marriage is supposed to be. You need to find someone who is willing to
think about you and your relationship with one another before they think about how situations will
affect them alone. Once you’re married, no one should continue living a life that resembles a
bachelor or bachelorette. To choose a spouse you gotta go for one who drives you and
makes you their priority.
Respect & Independence
Ideal partners value each other’s’ interests separate from their own. They feel congenial toward and
supportive of each other’s overall goals in life. They are sensitive to the other’s wants, desires and
feelings, and place them on an equal basis with their own. Ideal partners treat each other with
respect and sensitivity. They do not try to control each other with threatening or manipulative
behavior. They are respectful of their partner’s distinct personal boundaries, while at the same time
remaining close physically and emotionally.
The ideal partner is easily affectionate and responsive physically, emotionally and verbally. He or
she is personal, acknowledging and outwardly demonstrative of feelings of warmth and tenderness.
This person should enjoy closeness in being sexual and feel uninhibited in giving and accepting
affection and pleasure. Being open to both giving and receiving affection adds a poignant feeling
to our lives.
This is a key factor for any relationship to be successful. According to me, if you can communicate
to your partner and understand him/her, you surely have a strong relationship. Any
misunderstanding should be sorted out that day itself. He should be able to understand your
problems, your difficulties, what you are trying to explain to him and communicate freely without
any barriers. He should take out some time to talk to you. This is only possible if you put your ego
aside and communicate with your partner.\
Trust tops this list because any relationship is life less if it deprives of trust. Trust is the building
block of a relationship. The stronger the trust gets, the stronger gets the relationship. This is the
most important quality a good husband must possess. He should be able to trust you on each and
everything and at the same time be trustworthy too. He should not spy on you or be suspicious of
you. If you both can trust each other blindly, I am very sure your relationship is a perfect one.